Remember the article about black women dating interracially while abroad, written by the talented Arielle Loren that I was quoted in a week and a half ago? If you read some of the atrocious comments left under the article, you probably felt like you had been transported by an emotional time machine to 150 years before today. Some of the comments were truly scary and plain ignorant. The article has been re-posted to NBC’s the Grio and the comments on that site are even worse! I don’t usually comment on blog posts, but one comment in particular beneath the article was so ignorant I could not stop my anger. I will share it with you below:
Ignorant comment written by Fognon: Reason for more black woman/white mail couplings in London is that there are a huge amount of light-skinned women there. It will never be like that in the US as most white men find dark skinned women the least attractive of the races. I am thinking we may see more interracial couples in the coming years but they will be of the white male/Latina woman variety. Not to mention, the culture is different & you have much less “ghetto” black women in London than US.
Even now in the US black women are bring pushed to make themselves appear less attractive by switching to ‘natural’ hair & no makeup. This will limit their options significantly if they want to pursue interracial dating. It makes a woman look like she doesn’t ‘take care of herself’
My response to the ignoramus: Oh, fognon. As the great William Shakespeare once said: “you speak unskillfully: or, if your knowledge be more, it is much darkened in your malice”
I’m sorry! I have to disagree with this comment on a MAJOR scale! Ever since I went natural, I receive attention from men of different races more so than when I wore my hair chemically processed! In fact, I am called beautiful all the time with my natural hair. And again, this is more so than when I was relaxed. Also, I am a brown skinned woman and all the guys I have been with who were of a different race than me had no problem with this.
Men of different races don’t only like light skinned black women. That is a way of thinking that is soooo archaic and just plain ignorant. What are we in 1965!? WAKE UP!!!! It’s 2012! It’s people like you who give people complexes about their beauty. It’s people like YOU who give me misanthropic tendencies! This goes beyond the topic of dating. Now you’ve made this about accepting ones beauty!
If there are any black women reading this I want you to listen to me and listen to me good: You were born to this earth EXACTLY the way you were supposed to be. Don’t let anyone tell you you’re not beautiful because you were born with dark skin or curly hair or any other venomous rhetoric used by some human beings to dishearten others. Choose a mate because he is a beautiful human being with integrity, regardless of if he is white, black, asian, yellow, purple, blue or green. Look at him as a man first and a color second. AND most of all, tell any opposing society that disagrees with the way you look or who you date to go dig a ditch and then fall in it, because they are not worth the oxygen that it would take for you to say KISS MY [CENSORED]. I don’t usually comment but this ignorant comment shifted me to a plane of anger that I just could not contain!
Fognon’s response to me: Actually you are very pretty & I rethink my comment somewhat.
What do you think of Fognon’s comment? What would you say to him?
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